Orientation is not a one-way street. Relationships built on love and sex combined (aka: amatonormativity) are not the ultimate goal for everyone. Some of us don’t want romance, or don’t feel sexual attraction—and none of us is wrong, weird, or anything of the sort! Join Sera for a primer on the Asexual and Aromantic orientation spectrums. Explore attraction, desire, and identity in a modular framework that allows for a myriad of experiences. Acquire language that will potentially better help you understand yourself and improve interpersonal communication. Delve into a rousing conversation about the intersections of the ace/aro spectrum, queerness, and kink. Sera’s no-pressure, straight forward approach to imparting information will enrich the landscape of your life, and beyond.

You try to be the best mother. Best wife/ girlfriend/ lover (and if you're polyam, please multiply here appropriately). Best worker/ student/ co-worker. Best community member/ leader. Best neighbor. Best sister, daughter, niece, aunt ... Best friend. Meanwhile, there's a run in your fishnets; you can't find your other red cuff; and you ran out of Oreos, the only snack your kid will eat - this week, that is. Stop beating yourself up! And aren't many people in this lifestyle to either get literal beatings or give them? Why are you metaphorically slapping yourself silly? It's time to talk about the gritty, dirty, hard parts of being driven and kinky, all while wearing multiple hats. Join Sera Miles for real talk beyond the brunch table. No topic is out of bounds. Sera will facilitate discussion on how she's learned to be the good enough mother/ lover/ leader/ etc: how to say NO (yes, in all caps); how to prioritize; and how to reconcile what we do in the kink community with the rest of our lives. Prepare to whine (and be heard!), cry, sigh, and laugh - uproariously. Note: This workshop can be adapted for various communities and identities.

Disenfranchised peoples experience dozens to hundreds of microaggressions each day. These seemingly disposable attacks leave folks feeling empty, defeated, angry, victimized, helpless, and worse. Let's talk about what microaggressions are, how and why they function, and how we can all do a better job of communicating with awareness of the marginalized groups with whom we share and build our community. NOTE: This workshop can be adapted in minor ways for any community or subculture, from kinksters to the corporate boardroom.

New to Polyamory? Love someone who’s polyamorous? Ready to learn about life outside of the dominant relationship paradigm? Want to better support your polyamorous friends and family members? Join Sera for this incisive primer on Polyamory! Learn terms and concepts common to the Polyamory community, as well as the tenets of functional non-monogamy. Shake off common misconceptions about Polyamory, then examine the joys and pitfalls of engaging in multiple meaningful dynamics. Sera approaches Polyamory as an orientation, and attendees have appreciated Sera’s no-pressure, straight forward approach to imparting information that can enrich the landscape of your love life, and beyond.

Rules are meant to be learned, followed, obeyed - and broken? YES - once you have thoroughly learned those rules. Settle in for a spirited discussion-focused workshop on the tenets of negotiation and limit setting; defining irresponsibility; and how and when to work through fear to express vulnerability. Examine the parameters of "safe" - as well as how versatile those parameters can be. You've done the 101. And another 101. You've played. You've had dynamics. You've grown. Now, come talk about how, when, where, and if to break the rules.

Welcome to advanced conflict resolution! We'll discuss the meeting of existential philosophy and neuroscience to learn how the human being's ability to manipulate is a biological imperative. Then, we'll examine using that biological imperative for good - good for the self and others. Authentic diplomacy occurs when we resolve conflicts in ways that create win-win situations for the parties involved and the mediator(s). Settle in for a fascinating ride through the caverns of existentialism, into the microscopic pathways of the human brain, and across the minefield of human emotions. Bring your difficult situations (in mind!), and learn how to navigate the sometimes stormy community waters with better ease.

Come talk about toxic people and community health. We'll dabble in psychological theory, examine what "toxic" can mean, and turn the lens inside to examine on our own potential for behavior that damages the self and others. Learn tools to help you identify folks who can be toxic to you. Join in to collaborate and develop ideas on how to navigate the difficult community waters that seem poisoned to some - and fresh to others. The boat may rock, but life jackets? There's plenty.

What if we could negotiate all of our relationships from a place of self-truth and self-love? What if we stopped placing dominance on romantic dynamics and embraced the sanctity of each interpersonal connection? What if we believed our needs were valuable and facilitated getting them met? We’d have to be real honest with ourselves about who we are, what we want, and what we’re willing to give. Let’s work on believing we deserve every morsel of what we crave. Let’s develop relationships while consciously questioning the tenets of monogamy and polyamory. Imagine the dynamics you could enjoy, thrive in, and create if you trusted your vision. Join Sera to uncover ways to stop pretending, to express what you want and risk not only that timeless fear of humiliation and rejection, but also risk actually getting it all, risk feasting at the table of your dreams come true.

Sera Miles has worked in the sex industry for over 20 years. Her work has spanned fetish video, in person domination, voice overs, phone sex, FSSW, and running a phone sex business. Circle in for an unabashed discussion of desire, fetishes, and the hidden nuggets of ecstatic pleasure. Learn what only a pro can tell you: no question is taboo, or out of bounds. Bring your candid questions and allow Sera to open your mind to the multitude of ways you can engage with desire, eroticism, pleasure, kink, partners, yourself, and more.

Polyamory tells us that the relationships of our dreams are possible, that we can create dynamic paths to fulfilling our needs and discover novel approaches to intimacy, life building, and more. How, though, do we do that? How do we develop schedules that honor everyone's needs - without living under the tyranny of an integrated Google Calendar? Can we maintain living situations that keep costs low and people close by, or costs high and personal space great? What happens when dislike for a metamour shifts into loathing, or when jealousy feels all consuming? Is it necessary for all polyam folks to become political - or is it simply inevitable? Why do we sometimes feel so lonely when polyam means "many"? Join Sera for a discussion-based workshop that will examine polyamorous relationships under a practical magnifying lens. Let's talk about the realities of living out our reveries, and create the potential for our lives to match up to our dreams.

Join Sera for an invigorating class on vocabulary, common sense (that isn't so common!), etiquette, expectations, and safety. New to the kink / Leather/ BDSM/ fetish community? This class is for you! Been around for awhile? Come for a refresher!

No matter how many kink events we attend, we meet many people for the first time on-line - and they meet us, when they read our profiles on various sites. Whether you’re using social networking to find partners, friends, work, or community, your on-line profile creates a first impression. And those pesky first impressions? Almost impossible to change. In this workshop, we’ll discuss tools and tricks to help you develop the best first impression possible. Writing, proofreading, brainstorming, and celebrating ourselves in prose are all on the menu. Book editor, professional writer, and widely published poet Sera will share insider tips on developing, editing, and executing the best writing possible, and how to figure out not just how to write about yourself, but also what to write about yourself.